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Eating your feelings: The mother鈥慸aughter relationship and binge eating

- March 6, 2013

New research study offers some provocative food for thought. (Danny Abriel photo)
New research study offers some provocative food for thought. (Danny Abriel photo)

It鈥檚 late at night 鈥 almost too late 鈥 but you can鈥檛 go to sleep yet. You don鈥檛 want to. You鈥檝e only accomplished half of what you set out to do, and after a day like today, you really just need to finish this one thing: maybe it鈥檚 completing a paper, planning a budget, or cleaning the house.

But for many university undergrads, eating is what gets done first.

In her , AV俱乐部 PhD student Aislin Mushquash investigates binge eating in women during their undergrad years.

鈥淎cross the lifespan, the rates of binge eating are highest for people who are 18 to 25,鈥 explains Mushquash. 鈥淓specially the ones who are in university facing increased stress, fluctuating moods and problems with interpersonal relationships.鈥

But in contrast to prior research on binge eating, which has primarily explored an individual鈥檚 personality traits and emotional state of mind, Mushquash looked at how interpersonal relationships might influence a tendency to binge eat.

鈥淲e know that problems in social relationships 鈥 a fight with a friend, a fight with a parent 鈥 can be a trigger for the individual who binge eats,鈥 says Mushquash. 鈥淪o problems in interpersonal relationships can directly and indirectly affect someone鈥檚 mood and someone鈥檚 tendency to try to improve that mood鈥 and they end up binge eating as a result, to sort of manage the best way they can in that moment.鈥

Perfectionism, perceptions and parenting


The relationship that Mushquash and her supervisor (associate professor in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience) examined was between mothers and daughters, with just over 200 mother-daughter pairs participating in the study.

The research was conducted using a model that suggests perfectionism and difficulties in the mother-daughter relationship can lead to poor eating behaviours for daughters. In other words: those who perceive the need to be perfect, and those who are pressured to achieve excessively high standards may end up using food as a coping mechanism.

Mushquash and Dr. Sherry assessed socially prescribed perfectionism in daughters (those that think others expect them to be perfect) and psychological control in mothers (those who are controlling and place pressure on their children).

The findings paint a picture of young women who are inclined to feel like others expect too much of them, paired with mothers who tend to display controlling, demanding behaviour. The young women often feel they can鈥檛 meet their mothers鈥 expectations and that they鈥檙e letting their mothers down, leading to feelings of sadness. Binging, then, becomes a short-term coping mechanism for the young women during times of unhappiness.

鈥淢aybe a mom really wants the best for her child but just doesn鈥檛 know how to get that across,鈥 says Mushquash. 鈥淢aybe it comes across too excessive, and then you have a daughter who feels like she鈥檚 stuck because she鈥檚 never going to meet these expectations to be a perfect daughter or a perfect student.鈥

New insights to help address binge eating


Mushquash and Dr. Sherry are quick to clarify that the research doesn鈥檛 intend to point fingers of blame at moms. Rather, it鈥檚 new insight that helps students, families, and counsellors have a better understanding of the kinds of external factors that can lead to poor eating behaviours.

鈥淚 think our research is an important reminder that context counts,鈥 explains Dr. Sherry. He says their research looks at both the individual context and the interpersonal context, suggesting that for too long, one has been studied without the other. 鈥淚f anything, I think the pendulum of opinion had swung too far in the direction of blaming the individual binge eater.鈥

Dr. Sherry considers Mushquash an 鈥渁bsolute star,鈥 noting that she鈥檚 already been published numerous times.

鈥淭here are literally hundreds of articles on perfectionism and disordered eating and she found an important gap in knowledge and decided to fill it,鈥 says Dr. Sherry.

Dr. Sherry is also a practicing psychologist in Halifax and notes that this research has a lot of clinical relevance that could have implications for assessment and treatment.

鈥淵ou want to do research that has an impact, not only within academia, but also outside of academia. This is the sort of research that will inform the work of academics and also have a clear impact on the practice side of things,鈥 says Dr. Sherry. 鈥淚 think it can actually challenge the existing understanding we have of perfectionism and binge eating 鈥 it can expand it in an important way.鈥

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